I would rather live a life of “oh wells” rather than “what ifs” – For the longest time this quote has always been on the top of my favorites lists. When friends/strangers ask me “how are you able to do all of the things you do? How do you have enough time? How do you have enough money? How do you have enough energy?” I usually respond with this quote.
Meaning, if you are always asking yourself “well, WHAT IF this goes wrong? Or WHAT IF I don’t like it?” You’ll never do anything and miss out on so many opportunities. If you live a life of “Oh wells” then you will embrace every opportunity with open arms and at least you gave it a try and if it doesn’t work out, you can say “Oh well, at least I tried”…and if it DOES work out then you will have a boundless collection of fun, new experiences/adventures/connections with new people you wouldn’t have met any other way then to be in that particular place at that particular moment. The magic is endless when you do the things that make your heart smile.
I usually get the response, “I don’t have the time or I don’t have the money”… Make the time, set aside the money. Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. Even putting away $1 a week, it adds up! If you have to take some clothes to a consignment shop or post some things you don’t use any more on Craigslist, whatever way you’d like to get creative in making some extra $$$ there are so many possibilities, you just have to think outside of the box. Blocking that date on the calendar for that concert, that road trip, that cooking class, the fun yoga class you heard all about and have been dying to try, craft night, an art crawl… whatever it is that puts a smile on your face, by you marking it down and making it real, you are giving yourself something to look forward to, work towards, save up for, plan for, whatever the case may be…you are creating your world the way you want it.
I know I seem busy and crazy but I love it and I plan for it and even the spur of the moment, by the seat of my pants things that I dive into at last moments notice… I dive into them screaming “Woohoo!!” because I know that I have that time available. If I don’t have the time available then I don’t commit to the event/lunch date/working on a project for a friend/etc. unless I know I can be 100% in it to win it.
People always say Time management is most important. What is time management? You cannot change the fact that there are 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, 365 days in a year that will never change. What you can control is task management, being able to strategically plan for all of the things that are going on in your life and knowing what to take on and when to say “Thank you for the opportunity, but I will have to pass this time, but please keep me in mind for future events.” It’s important to develop effective strategies for managing your ability to balance the conflicting demands of time for play, study, leisure, earning money, etc. Task management skills are valuable in many aspects of life: from spending time with your grandparents/children/furry four legged companions to working in a vacation on your 1-3 weeks’ time frame that you have available at your job…whatever you want to do you can do it. It is possible! Believe you can and you’re halfway there.
Sometimes it may seem that there isn’t enough time to do everything that you need to. This can lead to a buildup of stress. It may require some tweaks to the way you currently operate/live your life but you’ll be for the better. Once you identify ways in which you can improve the management of your time/tasks, you can begin to adjust your routines and patterns of behavior to reduce any time-related stress in your live.
I realize that living a life of “Oh wells” sounds somewhat careless… So let’s look at it in another light. Live a life of both. Where Oh Well’s and What if’s mean the same thing. When you are making plans and making goals and dreaming dreams and all of it seems too big and unattainable, it’s time to drag out two very important words, and ask yourself “What if?”…
Because what if your big dreams are NOT too big? What if your plans ARE attainable? What if you have everything you need right now to make those big dreams start coming true? What if?!??!
If you’re going over something scary in your mind, over and over and over, ask yourself “what if that really did happen?” and then let the whole situation play out — even the worst case scenario. See yourself dealing with every little part of it and see that even if the thing you feared most really did happen, you would make it. You would be okay. Then you’ll be able to let go of fear.
Asking “WHAT IF?” releases your limitations and makes anything possible. When you find yourself stuck, whether because you think your goals are too big or because your strength is too small, really be honest with yourself. You will learn so much from this tiny little question.
Embrace today and every day with open arms! Get out a notebook and begin planning, drawing, researching and taking notes on the life you want to have, then go and have it! This is your life and you can shape it however you please. You may (more than likely will) encounter obstacles along the way, but that’s OK. Embrace those too because those open your eyes to see if what you want is really worth fighting for.
Have fun planning my friends! Dream BIG! Be Happy! Do what brings you JOY ♥